Havard Mela, Author at FocusMe https://focusme.com/blog/author/havard-mela/ The Productivity App That FORCES You to Focus! Fri, 02 Aug 2024 14:34:11 +0000 en hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.5 Dopamine Fast – Why you should start one today https://focusme.com/blog/dopamine-fast-why-you-should-start-one-today/ https://focusme.com/blog/dopamine-fast-why-you-should-start-one-today/#comments Fri, 02 Aug 2024 13:14:07 +0000 https://focusme.com/?p=513594 Why You Should Do A “Dopamine Fast” Today The value of stillness in today’s world is underrated. It might be time for a dopamine fast. It is simply astonishing how helpful it can be to unplug from the constant distractions we encounter online. The big tech platforms have both a “tool component” and a “drug […]

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Why You Should Do A “Dopamine Fast” Today

The value of stillness in today’s world is underrated. It might be time for a dopamine fast.

It is simply astonishing how helpful it can be to unplug from the constant distractions we encounter online.

The big tech platforms have both a “tool component” and a “drug component”. To overcome the “drug component” that makes us addicted and waste a lot of time, we need conscious strategies.

The benefits of being conscious of our digital use are immense. If we limit our exposure, we will avoid the constant dopamine spikes we get from scrolling and overstimulation in general. Adding a few more tweaks will help us optimize our dopamine levels.

Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that motivates us to do stuff and gives us pleasure when reaching rewards such as sex, food, and money.

A man walking scrolling on is mobile phone.

By optimizing your dopamine levels, you will experience:

  • Excitement
  • Increased motivation
  • Confidence and drive
  • Becoming more goal-oriented
 

Everything will feel much more exciting, and you will have much more energy to get things done.

Dopamine will give you the ability to work hard towards your goals. Without it, you will be lazy and unmotivated. I remember the days when I used the internet in an unfocused, limitless way. It turned into a couch potato, and the reason was that all the easy pleasure I got online had a really bad effect on my dopamine system.

Anything that harms your dopamine system will make you less willing to work hard and be

disciplined. As we all know, to become successful or even live happy and meaningful lives, we have to make an effort and show up every day. And that becomes easier if your dopamine system works in your favor.

So, how do we prepare for a “dopamine fast”? Here are two necessary steps:

1. Become conscious of your digital life

Internet and Technology Addicts Anonymous (ITAA) has developed some great tools. However, you don’t have to be addicted to benefit from their models.

ITAA has a framework to classify different online behaviors. Determining what kinds of digital activities you need to be careful with, what are beneficial uses, and what is not an issue for you can be very useful. Using their framework made a big difference for me.

Their system is divided into bottom, middle, and top lines:

1.                   Bottom lines: We should abstain from digital activities at all costs.

 

These are our digital compulsions or addictions. When we engage in these activities, we cannot stop and we get lost in them. We lose self-esteem every time we spend time on our bottom lines. I recommend using Focusme to block your bottom lines.

2.                   Middle lines: These digital activities can trigger us.

Knowing what can trigger us to access our bottom lines is very important. Personally, I used to struggle with porn addiction, and for me watching porn is a bottom line. I am very conscious about anything that can trigger that unwanted behaviour, such as scrolling through Instagram or watching certain movies. Middle lines are digital activities that can lead us down the slippery slope to our bottom lines by triggering us by showing pictures and videos or evoking emotional states that make us vulnerable.

3.                   Top lines: These are healthy activities offline or with screens that empower us and improve how we feel about ourselves.

These kinds of activities keep us satisfied and happy and are beneficial to our lives. Top lines can be beneficial uses of technology, such as researching things, watching video lectures, recording music, and so on. Our top lines encompass healthy hobbies and activities we engage with outside tech that make our lives better.

Everyone’s bottom, middle, and top lines are different. We use different apps and digital activities online, and we have different interests and triggers. So, figuring out your bottom, middle, and top lines is a very useful exercise to gain some clarity.

By consciously thinking about what can trigger you, you are in a much better position to manage your digital use. That will help you become more aware and disciplined in your life.

Too many digital distractions

2. Identify other ways you go for instant gratification

Here are some other typical ways to go for easy pleasure:

  • “Doomscrolling”
  • Playing video games
  • Excessive procrastination
  • Online gambling
  • And so on…
 

You are set when you have identified the other typical ways you go for instant gratification online.

The big benefits of a dopamine fast.

You don’t have to become a monk. Simply having some small habits you do every day can make a huge difference and reset your dopamine levels.

Fasting from dopamine isn’t possible and not desirable. After all, we need dopamine to get motivated, and it is technically impossible.

Instead, “dopamine fasting” is about minimizing exposure to cheap dopamine from social media, online porn, and so on.

Here are some examples that I have used:

  • No social media use for the first hour after waking
  • No social media use for the last hour before
  • Avoiding bottom lines (your problematic internet habits).
  • Going to the gym and leaving your phone at
  • Putting your phone in a different room for two hours while
 

If you avoid your bottom lines and also limit how much you go for instant gratification, your dopamine system will thank you.

Final thoughts

What matters most is that we limit the cheap pleasures in our lives. Otherwise, our brain’s reward system will become desensitized to the smaller pleasures in life. And your ability to work hard will disappear since your dopamine system is desensitized.

If you have too many easy pleasures in your life, the things you do to give you pleasure will produce pain.

It might not seem like fun to place restrictions on ourselves, but it will actually cause you to enjoy life a lot more and make the smaller things more enjoyable.

My life has improved by being more conscious about easy online pleasures. Having a healthy

dopamine system has also skyrocketed my ability to work hard. And the same can happen to you, too. Havard Mela is an author, coach, and digital minimalist. You can check out his website here.

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How to Overcome Digital Distractions

Your phone is there. At the desk. Or in your pocket. In the following article, you will find out how to overcome digital distractions.

The endless pull to check it is intense. The phone can instantly take away boredom and bring pleasure. It has become a way to escape any uncomfortable feeling or sensation instantly.

Why pay attention to what is happening in the boring lecture or Zoom meeting when you can see what’s new on Facebook? Or check Instagram. But the more you scroll, the worse the inner feeling of dissatisfaction becomes. It is not only the phone. We have the same challenges with our computers while working. There is endless novelty and stimulation just seconds away, which is a real hindrance to getting anything done. Have you ever wanted to begin working for the day but found yourself checking email, scrolling through your Facebook feed, and basically doing anything but work? Telling yourself you will just check one more thing, but the longer you wait, the less appealing it seems and the harder it is to dive into it.

Before you know it, a couple of hours have passed, and the only thing you have done is to check your bank account and social media and looked at your email inbox a few more times than necessary. If this is you, you are not alone. Endless distractions overwhelm us. But it doesn’t stop at work. After work, you want to hang out with friends. You check your phone to respond to messages and plan that meetup. But what you thought would only take 5 minutes ends up taking an hour or two as you get lost in the apps and the endless novelty and entertainment they provide. 

Overcome digital distractions

So, how do we overcome digital distractions? 

As someone who has struggled a lot with distracting myself online with video games, social media,  movies and porn, here are some suggestions that helped me regain control. 

1. What impairs your focus the most? 

Write down the things you believe impair your focus the most and stimulate you the most without any big benefits. Which digital activities or offline ones, for that matter, can you avoid that only cause harm in your life?  

2. Last week’s screen time. 

How much time did you spend on your smartphone last week? You can find this out by going to your smartphone’s settings and checking your screen time. 

Write this number down. Then, try to think through how much time you spend on your computer or tablet for personal matters. Add the two numbers together. That should give you the total.

amount of time online outside work. This number is probably higher than what you want it to be. We are typically not willing to change before we see our situation from a place of objectivity. 

3. Turn off as many notifications as possible. 

When I check my phone, the screen is almost always blank. The reason is that I turned off everything except urgent alerts. You don’t need your apps to tell you to check them. I also turned off vibrate for most things. The more notifications you get, the more difficult it will be to avoid checking your phone. It is as simple as that. 

The brain is promised a reward every time you receive a notification. And your brain will look for ways to experience the reward it has been promised. You can’t help yourself and end up checking your phone every 10 minutes. 

So, I recommend turning off notifications on everything that is not necessary. For instance, you can turn off notifications on everything except phone calls and messages and check social media when you schedule a time for it. It is better to do things on our schedule than the schedule Silicon Valley is trying to impose on us.

Read this article to learn more about how to unplug and relax when you are too busy with work.

4. Buy an alarm clock and put your phone in a different room while sleeping. 

Doing this can make a huge difference. It is extremely common to be on the phone before going to bed and reach for it straight after waking up. Putting your phone in a different room ensures you won’t be tempted to scroll through social media or watch videos while lying in bed. You will have to be there with your own thoughts, a book, or your partner. You might even end up falling asleep a lot earlier than usual as well!  

Making a habit of this has helped me get more quality sleep as I am not scrolling while lying in bed,  which can often steal a lot of time.  

5. Simplify your digital life. 

I removed all the apps I didn’t need from my phone. Do you really need ten different social apps?  What about YouTube and Netflix? Do you really need those on the phone? If you really want to relax with a movie or something entertaining, isn’t it better to do that from home with a bigger screen and do it properly? The less we rely on the phone for our daily tasks, the better. The problem is not checking the good restaurants you want to go to. It is the mindless scrolling we do afterwards, which becomes way easier when we have more things to distract us. Try removing all the apps you don’t need. 

6. Use Focusme 

You can block certain websites from your phone and computer. It can be a great way to minimize time spent on activities you want to avoid. 

7. Decide how you will be reachable. 

Ryan Holiday, the author of The Daily Stoic, limits himself to three ways to contact him: email, texts,  and phone calls. These are all he needs for business inquiries, friends, and family. Due to the sheer volume of requests he gets, he has to be conscious of this as a busy author, entrepreneur, and family man. But there is a lesson in this for everyone.

Unless you limit yourself to how people can reach you, you might end up having email, texts, phone calls, Instagram DMs, WhatsApp, Telegram, TikTok, Snapchat, Tinder, BeReal, Messenger, Slack, and who knows what else. If you feel the need to check a huge number of apps several times a day, you will be overwhelmed, distracted, and miserable.  

There is simply no way to keep up with it all without being in a frantic blur of digital distractions, leaving you unable to focus deeply and get into the flow of your work and personal life. I used to feel bad if  I didn’t check all the apps all the time, being worried I answered too late or missed out on something. Trying to limit how many social apps you have can be very helpful. 

8. Find your long-term replacement activities. 

For me, reading and writing have been my primary replacement activities. It is in the stillness of disconnecting from social media, YouTube, and other distractions that I have found the time and energy to read and write. 

What do you want to spend more time on going forward? You may have a passion for playing the guitar and want to take your skill to the next level. Or perhaps you want to start a business but feel like you don’t have the time. Whatever it is, reflecting on what activities you want more time for can be very helpful in reducing digital distractions.

Man on mountain with valley below

If I can do it, you can too 

The more you check social media and emails and visit your favourite news site, the harder you will find it to do hard work and commit to what you care about. When we avoid constant digital distractions, our level of stimulation gets lower, and it will be way easier to work toward our goals and dreams. You will end up being immersed in real life, hobbies, and people you care about and genuinely excited about life.  

I found the energy and focus to do many things that I didn’t think were possible when I managed to cut down my screen time significantly. The same can happen to you, too. 

Havard Mela is an author, coach, and digital minimalist. You can check out his website here.

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